Here is a good story and a little philosophy for a nice Sunday evening read; not too long and not too short and it all starts with a half painted house ….
I am making good on a promise to myself. One and a half years ago I started painting our house and at the end of that summer, A LOT changed personally and my older three sons came to live with my wife and I. We had to stop all elective household projects because I had to do A TON of other things like getting kids registered for school, starting them in school, getting Dr. / Dentist appointments setup … etc. A ton stuff really.
Now that the kids are fully integrated and we have a modicum of sanity back in our house (as much as a blended family of 6 can have 😳😂) I am ready to resume castle building!
My boys literally mean THE WORLD to me, one of the few things in this world I would go to prison or die for without hesitation or question. I don’t say that lightly or for emotional effect either; I have served the United States in ways many citizens have not and in some ways I still cannot speak about – I know EXACTLY what it means to say you would die for something.
There is no better reason than that to pause life like I did. Anyone who knows me, knows I am loyal to the end (and maybe a fault, sometimes). A true ride or die mf’r. I DO NOT apologize if my sons pick that up from me BTW 💯 👊.
You may be wondering why I would post this here rather than a more socially oriented platform. I do so to illustrate the type of fidelity I think is required to have true fulfillment and happiness in your life. Having a job, or a career for that matter, is a means to an end in your life, not the purpose of your life. I believe this life is about leveling up, and showing other people the path to your level before you get to the next level.
I’m a communications engineer by trade; I don’t think the almighty put me on this earth because the world needed phones. I believe my purpose on this earth is to continue to show my kids, my wife and those around me the path to the next level as I advance to the next level. I was given the ability to be a communications engineer because it enables my purpose -my career is a means to an end in my life, not the purpose of my life.
I emphasize showing others the path to the next level, not pulling them up to the next level. Why? Because thrive.
Individuals have to be able to thrive on their level, and should their leader (father, in my case) one day not be there to show the path to the next level, be able to forge ahead because you once showed them how to thrive and pull themselves up to the next level.
Never chase after the means to your purpose, always chase after your purpose. As long as you stay focused on your purpose, the means will find you as a way to enable your purpose. Here is an example:
At 28 years old living in Ohio paycheck to paycheck I NEVER would have imagined I’d own a nice house in Atlanta Georgia and have all 4 of my sons and a gorgeous bride under one roof with enough resources that 6 people do not want for anything.
Once I made the decision to stop chasing “money” by trying to look for a better job and just decided to focus on my kids and new marriage, things started to change. I started thinking of how to make the most of what I had and how to make myself more valuable to the employer I had, rather than look for a new employer.
That direction eventually led me through several industry certifications that made me very attractive to head hunters; in particular, one from Atlanta Georgia.
I stopped focusing on the money (means) and started focusing on my family (purpose). I started doing things to make me more valuable at my current employer and make myself more indispensable and secure but was also (unbeknownst to me at the time), making myself more marketable to recruiters at the next level.
Never discount the struggles you go through today, they are just lessons for tomorrow.